RESILIENCE : What and How
#Resilience In a post COVID world, one of the skill which will serve humanity best is Resilience.
What is Resilience?
When you look up the dictionary for a meaning, you will get following answers:
1. The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.
"the often remarkable resilience of so many British institutions"
2. The ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.
"nylon is excellent in wearability, abrasion resistance and resilience"
Do a bit of search for Psychological Resilience and you will get this:
Psychological resilience is the ability to mentally or emotionally cope with a crisis or to return to pre-crisis status quickly.
Resilience exists when the person uses "mental processes and behaviors in promoting personal assets and protecting self from the potential negative effects of stressors".
In simpler terms, psychological resilience exists in people who develop psychological and behavioral capabilities that allow them to remain calm during crises/chaos and to move on from the incident without long-term negative consequences.
So How do you build resilience?
Resilience can be built by following strategies:
1. Reframe the situation
Resilience is about avoiding eruption or implosion under unfavorable situations. It's not about not being upset. You are perfectly ok to be upset.
It's about reframing your situation at two levels:
a ) It's about reframing a situation from a crisis to an opportunity.
b) Reframe from Why me? to What I can learn from this?
2. Differentiate what's in your control and what's outside
Resilience is not about taking burden of everything, it's about knowing what's in your control and make decisions about them. What's out of control should be better left alone.
3. Develop healthy relationship
You are not RAMBO. RAMBOs are hardly resilient. Resilience is about knowing that you alone can't solve all the problem. It pertains to point no. 2. It's about finding people who can help you with what's outside your control.
4. Commit to actions
Resilience is about moving from ruminating about a situation to action. It's about finding adaptive and innovative solutions. Resilience is also about high level of tolerance to failure.
5. Move to a New Orbit
Sometimes a crisis can’t be solved in the orbit where it erupted. Resilience in that scenario is about accepting it and finding a new orbit. Being adamant about reviving which can’t be revived is not a sign of resilience but it’s called madness. This is not same as running away but it’s about framing a new context from your vantage point.
Source:
https://hbr.org/2018/02/to-handle-increased-stress-build-your-resilience
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_resilience
